I’ve always been someone who valued comfort and practicality over all else. If I could, I would wear PJ’s everywhere I went with zero shame. But since that is not socially acceptable, I suck it up and put on jeans. I guess I just don’t care what strangers think of me. I’ve just never been the type of person who has to look perfect before walking out the door. I go out all the time without makeup. I’m not saying we should look like slobs. I simply mean I don’t think we always have to put on a specially planned outfit and spend an hour on hair and makeup to go grab some milk and eggs. And I’m only talking about days when I don’t have work, or anything important to do. Of course I take more care with my clothing and makeup when going to work, going out to dinner, or anything more than running to Target or Starbucks.
I had twin roommates in college who refused to walk out the door without full makeup, hair, and the perfect outfit, no matter where they were going. All I could think then was how exhausting it must be to always keep up appearances. They would wake up extra early on exam days to get ready and make sure they looked perfect because they believed if you looked your best you would do better on the exam. Meanwhile, I’d wake up early, throw on yoga pants, a tshirt, throw my hair up, and spend the time I would have otherwise spent primping to get in some last minute cramming before the exam. The three of us all did well in school, so I don’t think one method works better than the other, it’s all about what works for you. I just couldn’t fathom spending an hour on my hair when I could have spent that hour to get in valuable study time before a test. I’d like to note that it seemed most other students used my approach.
My roommates always said that if you didn’t take pride in your appearance, and if you go anywhere not looking your best, you had no respect for yourself and you must be insecure. I always strongly disagreed with that view but kept it to myself and let them do their thing, and let them judge me for going to Target without makeup. The thing is I’m really not insure at all. The opposite really. I could care less if someone thought “oh my goodness that girl has no makeup on.” If that is all someone has to worry about, they clearly need a hobby. We all have our insecurities, but I’ve been lucky to pretty much always been very secure with myself, even with my weight issues. I don’t feel the need to dress to the nines and look perfect to be valued or respected by others. I think feeling the need to always look perfect is likely a higher indicator of insecurity than not caring if you look perfect.
I’m not bashing those of you that always look amazing, and obviously, as I said before, I take the time to make sure I am done up for work, and when doing anything other than errands. I think that women put too much pressure on themselves to always look perfect. I don’t think there is anything wrong with running to the store in yoga pants, hair up, and with no makeup on, and I don’t think we should put each other down for failing to always look done up.